In your relationship…

  • Are there trust issues in your relationship?
  • Are you wondering if it’s possible to heal after an affair?
  • Do you find yourself having the same fight over and over?
  • Are you concerned about your partner using alcohol or drugs?
  • Are you concerned about verbal, emotional, physical and or financial abuse?
  • Are you wondering how to move forward in your relationship?
  • Do you seem able to put energy into everything but each other?
  • Do you feel like there is no spark left?
  • Are you struggling with a serious issue such as a health crisis, unemployment or extended family concerns?
  • Are you concerned about parenting?  Are you parenting against each other?
  • Are you faced with a major life transition such as becoming parents, blending two families, facing an empty nest, or adjusting to being retired?
  • Are you questioning what the point of trying is?

Coming in for therapy together can help.

We all come to our adult partnered relationships with ideas and behaviors that we have collected over the years: from our original families, from our culture, and from past relationships and other life experiences as well as expectations.   Gaining an understanding of all of these factors in a safe and supportive environment can help lessen conflict and begin to bring you back into a loving connection with each other. The strength of the bond of a couple can be tested and challenged and partners can get stuck in programmed responses and behavior. This can create a cycle of behaviors and emotions that repeat themselves until new behaviors and strategies break the negative patterns. Couples get locked into protective reactions (some withdraw, others pursue) but illuminating the dance and uniting the couple against their negative cycle can produce more positive lasting results.

HOW COUNSELLING WORKS:

  • You come in as a couple;
  • We go over introductions;
  • As a couple you complete the Statement of Understanding;
  • We go over the Confidentiality Agreement;
  • We discuss Groundrules for effective couples counselling;
  • Then I would like to hear from each of you in your own words what is happening in your relationship and what brings you to counselling. This is your opportunity to tell your story from you own perspective.  I will always ask each of you to respond to what is being said so you have equally opportunity to speak.
  • After you have both presented your issue, then we work together to identify a mutual goal for counselling.
  • Sometimes I will see you both individually for a couple of sessions – however it will be within the couples counselling context.